tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4502078884620571251.post4271880980497640746..comments2023-07-04T04:58:03.861-07:00Comments on Momof4: Rutabagamomof4vahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09712695026820153000noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4502078884620571251.post-20519121709152370142012-04-13T09:43:24.611-07:002012-04-13T09:43:24.611-07:00Brien - thank you so much for sharing your point o...Brien - thank you so much for sharing your point of view on this! I love how you said it is not working moms vs stay at home moms but a "modern mom problem"! Why are we doing this to ourselves!?! I would love to hear from our readers in other countries - is this a challenge that is unique to the United States? Also, I would love to hear from our readers who are Grandparents - why are things more complicated for this generation? Thank you everyone!momof4vahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09712695026820153000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4502078884620571251.post-68619177427710602332012-04-13T08:59:55.074-07:002012-04-13T08:59:55.074-07:00Kathleen -- I've been in your shoes (for 7 yea...Kathleen -- I've been in your shoes (for 7 years) and now I work full time. I know how tough it is to be home full-time, because I've lived it. However, I have to respectfully disagree that working moms have a better work-life balance. I guess I can only speak for myself, but I think the stress/guilt is just different in each situation. While at home, I felt the need to keep the house well, do part-time work to justify being home, and be involved everywhere, as you say. I definitely felt exhausted most of the time. However, I didn't really feel guilty about being home, because I believed it was good for my kids. And, since it feels like most in our neighborhood are home with kids (or is that just my perception?)it felt like the norm. Now that I work full-time outside of the house and have another part-time job, I feel terribly guilty about not being as involved in school and activities. I find myself staying up until all hours to still make the fancy cookies for the class party like I used to, or offering to do every last thing I can squeeze in, including during the workday, so that my kids (and I) still feel I'm involved. I constantly bite off way more than I can chew because I feel like I am always missing something and always feel guilty about saying no. I think that this is more a modern mom problem than a stay at home vs. working mom problem. We worry about how every tiny action affects our kids, and feel held to a ridiculous standard no matter how we spend our days. I don't think our moms did this at all!Brienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04060352851016403004noreply@blogger.com